I suspect they would use All the clean dishes, even ones she would use, so she would have to clean something to eat out of.
So, do you all pay rent? Split 3 ways? If so, things should be equal. Who handles the rent payment, grocery shopping, utilities, etc?
When my older kids lived at home I asked the same things of them and told them if they refused I would ask they give me some of their money they earned to pay for a maid to clean up, because I wasn't the maid! (believe me, mothers of older kids don't want to do that stuff anymore either!)
Whatever you do, don't say, "hey guys, we need to talk" cause men hear "we need to talk" and their brains hear "You are in deep poodoo" and shuts off so they don't listen.
What I did at one point was buy plastic silverware, paper plates (the thick ones) and paper cups and put several garbage cans around. Then, there was no need to return stuff to the kitchen. Only to take out the garbage LOL
There's really no good answer or solution. I was married to a man who told me I nagged when I repeated he needed to do something, and when I didn't say anything, he would tell me "well, you didn't say anything!". I'm no longer married to that person. After 18 years or him trying to turn me into his mother/slave I kicked his butt to the curb.
I'm now married to a guy who doesn't try to change me into anything and I extend the same courtsey to him
