advice please folks

B.B.'s mom · 02-14-2005, 07:58 PM

you all do a great job on putting me back on track when i try to humanize my dog. so i am looking for advice on this one please.
as you may know from reading my posts that i have been fostering kittens.well, i am starting to feel a bit guilty because b.b. seems to be jealous when i hold and pet them. it must be done as part of the "socialization" process and i am careful to include him which has actually been helpful because, so far, i am able to tell prospective adopters that the kitten gets along with dogs. its also helped with his clingliness because he follows them around when he would normally be begging for my attention. i just don't want to give him any complexes..any advice would be appreaciated.

poodlesmom · 02-14-2005, 08:07 PM

Sounds like you are doing just fine! I have known many dogs who have cats as housemates & are great pals!

***Carrie*** · 02-14-2005, 08:08 PM

Sounds like you're doing a great job already. No need to feel guilty though. It's another lesson which is good for your dog....that he is not always numero uno and that you will pat whom you please when you please and he'll be lucky when you choose to pat him. (aren't I a super b*****?)

***Carrie*** · 02-14-2005, 08:09 PM

LOL. Poodlesmom...we posted at the same time.

sunny98 · 02-14-2005, 08:12 PM

I think it is totally normal for BB to get a little jealous when you bring new kittens into the house. They take time away from him which he is use to having. I also know what you mean about the guilt complex. Raises both hands in the air! LOL I have felt the same way on several occasions.

I think you are doing the right thing. You pay attention to him and he get to play or terrorize,LOL, the kittens. You are a wonderful person to foster them and make sure they are well socialized so that they can find forever homes. I know it's hard but try not to beat yourself up over this. Instead give yourself a big pat on the back for doing such a wonderful job with your fosters!

***Carrie*** · 02-14-2005, 08:17 PM

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Instead give yourself a big pat on the back for doing such a wonderful job with your fosters!

YES! Kudos to you!

Hey...as long as your dog gets ample time and attention, he's just fine. I think we tend to worry too much and over do sometimes. Dogs don't need constant attention and in fact, that can do more harm than good. (just to reiterate)

linnie · 02-14-2005, 11:33 PM

absolutely doing a good job dont fret so much.
Little dogs seem to show jealous tendancies more I think.

Barrett · 02-15-2005, 10:24 AM

I often ignore both of my dogs for a little while during the day. If I'm reading a book or doing needle point I don't let my dogs pester me into playing with them. They try really hard for a few minutes but they get the idea and either play with each other or go lie down. I can't let them pester me all day long or I wouldn't get any time to myself and I would be playing fetch and tug o war 14 hours a day! LOL. My cats are very friendly and need my time too. They pester harder then the dogs sometimes and get right in my face. My favorite time of the day is evenings where I sometimes have two dogs and two cats laying all over me while I strain my neck to see over them and watch a little tv. They all do this thing where they fight over who gets to be higher up on my body and the one who lays across my neck or face wins. It's a dominance thing but all four animals do it. It makes it hard to watch tv or sleep so I usually end up shoving all four on the floor. LOL

gaddylovesdogs · 02-15-2005, 10:44 AM

It sounds to me, too, like you're being both a great dog mother and a great foster mother. It's natural for animals to become jealous just like it is for humans. You're doing such a wonderful thing helping these kittens.

B.B.'s mom · 02-15-2005, 04:19 PM

thanks for all the encouragement folks! and barret, it so funny what you said about the dogs and cats trying to get closest to the top when they lay on you. i experienced the same thing last night! it started at my legs and real sly like..one would reposition themself to get a bit higher..over and over untill b.b was on my neck!

TinyAlbinoDancer · 02-15-2005, 04:26 PM

LOL Don't let B.B make you feel guilty. Missie was a 'single child' for the first two years of her life, I think it was, and she becomes a terror if I hold or pay attention to anything else now.

I wish she hadn't become so spoiled like that (so much for sharing. lol), so I'd recommend continuing to not give B.B. all the attention all the time.

You're doing great!!

calgal · 02-16-2005, 09:26 AM

Bless you for your foster work. Don't worry about b b. Your doing a great job and once he figures out he is still loved don't be surprised if he starts helping with the fosters.

02-14-2005, 07:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
B.B.'s mom malti-poo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: new jersey Posts: 112 Rep Power: 72	advice please folks you all do a great job on putting me back on track when i try to humanize my dog. so i am looking for advice on this one please. as you may know from reading my posts that i have been fostering kittens.well, i am starting to feel a bit guilty because b.b. seems to be jealous when i hold and pet them. it must be done as part of the "socialization" process and i am careful to include him which has actually been helpful because, so far, i am able to tell prospective adopters that the kitten gets along with dogs. its also helped with his clingliness because he follows them around when he would normally be begging for my attention. i just don't want to give him any complexes..any advice would be appreaciated.

02-14-2005, 08:12 PM	#5 (permalink)
sunny98 Join Date: May 2004 Location: Mt Vernon Wa Posts: 822 Rep Power: 95	I think it is totally normal for BB to get a little jealous when you bring new kittens into the house. They take time away from him which he is use to having. I also know what you mean about the guilt complex. Raises both hands in the air! LOL I have felt the same way on several occasions. I think you are doing the right thing. You pay attention to him and he get to play or terrorize,LOL, the kittens. You are a wonderful person to foster them and make sure they are well socialized so that they can find forever homes. I know it's hard but try not to beat yourself up over this. Instead give yourself a big pat on the back for doing such a wonderful job with your fosters!
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02-14-2005, 11:33 PM	#7 (permalink)
linnie tibbie girl Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Australia Posts: 3,051 Rep Power: 168	absolutely doing a good job dont fret so much. Little dogs seem to show jealous tendancies more I think.
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02-15-2005, 10:44 AM	#9 (permalink)
gaddylovesdogs don't have a cow! Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: USA Posts: 3,418 Rep Power: 149	It sounds to me, too, like you're being both a great dog mother and a great foster mother. It's natural for animals to become jealous just like it is for humans. You're doing such a wonderful thing helping these kittens.
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02-15-2005, 04:26 PM	#11 (permalink)
TinyAlbinoDancer Always room for one more Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: CA Posts: 2,528 Rep Power: 161	LOL Don't let B.B make you feel guilty. Missie was a 'single child' for the first two years of her life, I think it was, and she becomes a terror if I hold or pay attention to anything else now. I wish she hadn't become so spoiled like that (so much for sharing. lol), so I'd recommend continuing to not give B.B. all the attention all the time. You're doing great!!
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02-14-2005, 08:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
poodlesmom Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: upstate NY Posts: 1,389 Rep Power: 107	Sounds like you are doing just fine! I have known many dogs who have cats as housemates & are great pals!

02-14-2005, 08:08 PM	#3 (permalink)
*Carrie* Super Moderator Super Moderator Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: north panhandle of Idaho Posts: 7,398 Rep Power: 278	Sounds like you're doing a great job already. No need to feel guilty though. It's another lesson which is good for your dog....that he is not always numero uno and that you will pat whom you please when you please and he'll be lucky when you choose to pat him. (aren't I a super b*****?)

02-14-2005, 08:09 PM	#4 (permalink)
*Carrie* Super Moderator Super Moderator Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: north panhandle of Idaho Posts: 7,398 Rep Power: 278	LOL. Poodlesmom...we posted at the same time.

02-15-2005, 10:24 AM	#8 (permalink)
Barrett dachshund Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Posts: 2,758 Rep Power: 152	I often ignore both of my dogs for a little while during the day. If I'm reading a book or doing needle point I don't let my dogs pester me into playing with them. They try really hard for a few minutes but they get the idea and either play with each other or go lie down. I can't let them pester me all day long or I wouldn't get any time to myself and I would be playing fetch and tug o war 14 hours a day! LOL. My cats are very friendly and need my time too. They pester harder then the dogs sometimes and get right in my face. My favorite time of the day is evenings where I sometimes have two dogs and two cats laying all over me while I strain my neck to see over them and watch a little tv. They all do this thing where they fight over who gets to be higher up on my body and the one who lays across my neck or face wins. It's a dominance thing but all four animals do it. It makes it hard to watch tv or sleep so I usually end up shoving all four on the floor. LOL

02-15-2005, 04:19 PM	#10 (permalink)
B.B.'s mom malti-poo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: new jersey Posts: 112 Rep Power: 72	thanks for all the encouragement folks! and barret, it so funny what you said about the dogs and cats trying to get closest to the top when they lay on you. i experienced the same thing last night! it started at my legs and real sly like..one would reposition themself to get a bit higher..over and over untill b.b was on my neck!

02-16-2005, 09:26 AM	#12 (permalink)
calgal My Yorkster kids! Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: central ca. coast Posts: 6,609 Rep Power: 222	Bless you for your foster work. Don't worry about b b. Your doing a great job and once he figures out he is still loved don't be surprised if he starts helping with the fosters.

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