Need prayers/thoughts for a classmate.

Ritz459 · 09-07-2005, 05:23 PM

Well, I thought I'd post this here for the heck of it. One of my classmates is really really depressed right now, and she actually slit her wrist last night.

I don't know if she was suicidal or if she just wanted to get attention or what, but she needs help.
At school she seems perfectly fine. Talkative, she participates in stuff, etc.
Her family is going through a really tough time at the moment. Her brother is married to a *nasty person*, and the bro's wife just has a baby and is refusing to let the rest of the family see it because they are all jerks. (Which it is just the oppisite, IMO.) The brother and his wife are both claiming that the rest of the family owes them money and a car because "they haven't been suportive enough".
It also sounds like her parents are extreamly stressed at the moment, and that my classmate and her parents have shouting matches almost every night.
And to top it all off, my classmates boyfriend just broke up with her, and her ex ex boyfriend broke up with her a month ago.

So I just thought I'd share and I hope you'll keep her in your thoughts and/or prayers.

Crossfire Bulldogs · 09-07-2005, 05:32 PM

Your right she does need some help regardless whether she meant to do this for attention or with the intention of hurting herself. It does sound like shes having a really tough time right now and I hope she is able to find the "calm in the storm" in the form of someone to help her.

flyndog · 09-07-2005, 05:56 PM

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If those who took their own lives realized how their loved ones will feel for years and years afterward, they would never do it. They assume loved ones will feel sad for awhile, maybe feel sorry for something they did, and get over it. But it is so much worse than that. I speak from experience. I hope she can get some help.
Kit

Sayuri · 09-07-2005, 06:25 PM

Prayers and good thoughts are on their way. I hope she can find a counselor or therapist to talk to - if you're open to healing and finding ways to feel better, it really helps.

fireworksinjuly · 09-07-2005, 06:35 PM

My thoughts are certainly with her. And you for caring about her.

Everything Flyndog has said is the truth, I have experiance here too.

Raised By Wolves · 09-07-2005, 07:30 PM

Hi Ritz,

I am sorry your friend is hurting so bad right now...I'm glad she has you.

To your friend:

Please, do not dispair! The world can be a wonderful adventure! Do you have a passion? Find something that you love to do. Something that makes time melt away when you are focused on your passion.

I'm sorry, but for young girls, boys can be a drug. There is something in our female, human make-up that makes this so when we are teenagers. Believe me, I've been there! You don't need the attentions of a boy to be validated as a human being.

Hang in there and hang with Ritz! God puts living angels on earth in human form...she is one of them. She can help you find your passion and find yourself. Your true love will then find YOU!

I send you my prayers, hopes, and dreams to become all that you were born to be...and someday, because you have chosen to live, you will help another who is standing where you are now. That is truely what life is all about. We are here to help each other.

May God bless you,

Debbie

Mysticwind · 09-07-2005, 09:39 PM

I hope she gets the help she needs - this was a cry for help and I hope an adult is seeking treatment for her. My senior year of high school 3 fellow students killed themselves in a 2 week period of time. None of them knew each other and I don't think they knew how much damage their deaths did to their families and friends. Their friends all reported after they were gone that they'd spoken of killing themselves and being very depressed. But none of them took the seriously and after they died they felt an enormous amount of guilt that they could have gotten help for their friends, but didn't because they didn't want to make their friends mad at them. Better to be mad and alive. I wasn't close with any of the students or their friends but I did share classes with them and saw how distraught they all were.

Hoping she finds a way of the black hole she currently finds herself in. She's going to need alot of support.

GreenleafGreyhound · 09-07-2005, 10:37 PM

I never slit myself and never seriously considered suicide, but there was a point in my life when those gosh darn hormones were just torturing me. I got so frustrated with the lack of understanding that I sent out a letter to two of my closest friends. Even though I now regard that letter as quite silly and naive (and I now desperately want to say to myself, "GET OVER IT!"

), my friends both replied quickly and compassionately. And that was that. My support was there. My passion was there. My family WAS there. And before you knew it, the cause of my problems became a shoulder to cry on. Since you care so much for your friend, I really suggest you show it. What your friend really needs is someone who honest-to-God understands what she's going through. Not just a stranger on the Internet, saying "Oh, I'm sorry". I'll be honest with you, that might just upset her more. Another thing that might help...when I received the replies to my letter, my closest closest friend gave the letter to her mom, and suddenly, I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Here was a successful, grown woman who went through the exact same predicament I went through. She was like my lifesaver out. I have to applaud you for taking the first step forward, but I want you to show your friend that you love her and you're there for support. The problems that are troubling her now will seem minimal in the future.

What does she plan to become when she grows up? Focus on that, and I also agree about taking her passion to the next step. I also suggest you get her to do some kind of relaxing activity like picture taking (it really is enjoyable once you get into it), instruments, GOOD music (not like the type that talks about suicide *rolls eyes*), and, heck, animals! I really do wish you luck, and if she wants to, I will help her through her troubles. A lot of us have been there. We suffered, but we conquered our fears and now we have no regrets. My heart goes out to her.

(Pee Ess- What does she cut herself with? Please try to remove it from her posession. If you can't, I wouldn't push it because that almost always does more harm than good. I wish you tons and tons of good luck!)

tessa_s212 · 09-07-2005, 11:13 PM

I've always lived in a very disfunctual and stressful family. Life has not been the easiest for many reasons that I cannot discuss on an internet forum for everyone to see. And if this friend of yours is trully depressed... I can totally relate. I didn't have any friends back then, and no passion for life. I had nothing going for me and my parents weren't there for me. My dad was always at work and my mom was not capable to be there for me because she is not 'normal'. Due to something that happened to me at a very young age I have always been very self conscious and trying to please boys. At that young age of 13 I was lucky that I had a very strict mother and some morals, and dog training. I never actually did anything along the lines of slitting my wrists, fortunately.

Life does get better. Despite all those horrible things. Its hard when you don't have passion or love for something. What brought me out of that 'dark' world? My baby. My dog. I first got her when I was nine or ten. But it wasn't until later that I realized how much she truly means to me and that she needs me to be there. I didn't have the best life, and sometimes I still don't, but that doesn't matter. I have a living being that is dependant on me. I have to be there for her.

For that, I consider myself truly lucky. I have something and somebody that I love more than life. Dog training and dogs mean everything to me.

I can only hope that your friend finds something that she truly loves--hopefully not another boy. Even at 15 I am too young to date. I am still learning who I am,... how am I supposed to know who I 'want'?

09-07-2005, 05:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
Ritz459 "Nothing is ever easy" Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Indiana Posts: 5,722 Blog Entries: 3 Rep Power: 235	Need prayers/thoughts for a classmate. Well, I thought I'd post this here for the heck of it. One of my classmates is really really depressed right now, and she actually slit her wrist last night. I don't know if she was suicidal or if she just wanted to get attention or what, but she needs help. At school she seems perfectly fine. Talkative, she participates in stuff, etc. Her family is going through a really tough time at the moment. Her brother is married to a nasty person, and the bro's wife just has a baby and is refusing to let the rest of the family see it because they are all jerks. (Which it is just the oppisite, IMO.) The brother and his wife are both claiming that the rest of the family owes them money and a car because "they haven't been suportive enough". It also sounds like her parents are extreamly stressed at the moment, and that my classmate and her parents have shouting matches almost every night. And to top it all off, my classmates boyfriend just broke up with her, and her ex ex boyfriend broke up with her a month ago. So I just thought I'd share and I hope you'll keep her in your thoughts and/or prayers.
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09-07-2005, 05:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
Crossfire Bulldogs Sourmug Mom Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Snuggled Between The Snorts & Snores. Posts: 7,844 Blog Entries: 3 Rep Power: 285	Your right she does need some help regardless whether she meant to do this for attention or with the intention of hurting herself. It does sound like shes having a really tough time right now and I hope she is able to find the "calm in the storm" in the form of someone to help her.
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09-07-2005, 05:56 PM	#3 (permalink)
flyndog Unleash The Possibilities Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Marfa, TX Posts: 3,969 Rep Power: 183	Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If those who took their own lives realized how their loved ones will feel for years and years afterward, they would never do it. They assume loved ones will feel sad for awhile, maybe feel sorry for something they did, and get over it. But it is so much worse than that. I speak from experience. I hope she can get some help. Kit
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09-07-2005, 06:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
Sayuri Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: In the gorgeous NW Posts: 932 Rep Power: 132	Prayers and good thoughts are on their way. I hope she can find a counselor or therapist to talk to - if you're open to healing and finding ways to feel better, it really helps.
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09-07-2005, 06:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
fireworksinjuly Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 2,585 Rep Power: 142	My thoughts are certainly with her. And you for caring about her. Everything Flyndog has said is the truth, I have experiance here too.
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09-07-2005, 07:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
Raised By Wolves Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 1,523 Rep Power: 128	Hi Ritz, I am sorry your friend is hurting so bad right now...I'm glad she has you. To your friend: Please, do not dispair! The world can be a wonderful adventure! Do you have a passion? Find something that you love to do. Something that makes time melt away when you are focused on your passion. I'm sorry, but for young girls, boys can be a drug. There is something in our female, human make-up that makes this so when we are teenagers. Believe me, I've been there! You don't need the attentions of a boy to be validated as a human being. Hang in there and hang with Ritz! God puts living angels on earth in human form...she is one of them. She can help you find your passion and find yourself. Your true love will then find YOU! I send you my prayers, hopes, and dreams to become all that you were born to be...and someday, because you have chosen to live, you will help another who is standing where you are now. That is truely what life is all about. We are here to help each other. May God bless you, Debbie

09-07-2005, 09:39 PM	#7 (permalink)
Mysticwind Shiloh Shepherds Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Dayton, Ohio Posts: 124 Rep Power: 75	I hope she gets the help she needs - this was a cry for help and I hope an adult is seeking treatment for her. My senior year of high school 3 fellow students killed themselves in a 2 week period of time. None of them knew each other and I don't think they knew how much damage their deaths did to their families and friends. Their friends all reported after they were gone that they'd spoken of killing themselves and being very depressed. But none of them took the seriously and after they died they felt an enormous amount of guilt that they could have gotten help for their friends, but didn't because they didn't want to make their friends mad at them. Better to be mad and alive. I wasn't close with any of the students or their friends but I did share classes with them and saw how distraught they all were. Hoping she finds a way of the black hole she currently finds herself in. She's going to need alot of support.
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09-07-2005, 10:37 PM	#8 (permalink)
GreenleafGreyhound Good Dog - Greyt Peke Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Northern CA Posts: 736 Rep Power: 103	I never slit myself and never seriously considered suicide, but there was a point in my life when those gosh darn hormones were just torturing me. I got so frustrated with the lack of understanding that I sent out a letter to two of my closest friends. Even though I now regard that letter as quite silly and naive (and I now desperately want to say to myself, "GET OVER IT!" ), my friends both replied quickly and compassionately. And that was that. My support was there. My passion was there. My family WAS there. And before you knew it, the cause of my problems became a shoulder to cry on. Since you care so much for your friend, I really suggest you show it. What your friend really needs is someone who honest-to-God understands what she's going through. Not just a stranger on the Internet, saying "Oh, I'm sorry". I'll be honest with you, that might just upset her more. Another thing that might help...when I received the replies to my letter, my closest closest friend gave the letter to her mom, and suddenly, I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Here was a successful, grown woman who went through the exact same predicament I went through. She was like my lifesaver out. I have to applaud you for taking the first step forward, but I want you to show your friend that you love her and you're there for support. The problems that are troubling her now will seem minimal in the future. What does she plan to become when she grows up? Focus on that, and I also agree about taking her passion to the next step. I also suggest you get her to do some kind of relaxing activity like picture taking (it really is enjoyable once you get into it), instruments, GOOD music (not like the type that talks about suicide rolls eyes), and, heck, animals! I really do wish you luck, and if she wants to, I will help her through her troubles. A lot of us have been there. We suffered, but we conquered our fears and now we have no regrets. My heart goes out to her. (Pee Ess- What does she cut herself with? Please try to remove it from her posession. If you can't, I wouldn't push it because that almost always does more harm than good. I wish you tons and tons of good luck!)
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09-07-2005, 11:13 PM	#9 (permalink)
tessa_s212 animal rescue advocate Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Stryker, Ohio Posts: 646 Rep Power: 82	I've always lived in a very disfunctual and stressful family. Life has not been the easiest for many reasons that I cannot discuss on an internet forum for everyone to see. And if this friend of yours is trully depressed... I can totally relate. I didn't have any friends back then, and no passion for life. I had nothing going for me and my parents weren't there for me. My dad was always at work and my mom was not capable to be there for me because she is not 'normal'. Due to something that happened to me at a very young age I have always been very self conscious and trying to please boys. At that young age of 13 I was lucky that I had a very strict mother and some morals, and dog training. I never actually did anything along the lines of slitting my wrists, fortunately. Life does get better. Despite all those horrible things. Its hard when you don't have passion or love for something. What brought me out of that 'dark' world? My baby. My dog. I first got her when I was nine or ten. But it wasn't until later that I realized how much she truly means to me and that she needs me to be there. I didn't have the best life, and sometimes I still don't, but that doesn't matter. I have a living being that is dependant on me. I have to be there for her. For that, I consider myself truly lucky. I have something and somebody that I love more than life. Dog training and dogs mean everything to me. I can only hope that your friend finds something that she truly loves--hopefully not another boy. Even at 15 I am too young to date. I am still learning who I am,... how am I supposed to know who I 'want'?

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